20 3 / 2014
Aryana is now 3 months old. And I am just getting to writing my birth story… I guess I was kinda avoiding it because it did not go how I wished. During the start of my pre-labor I started to take notes in my journal because I knew I would have to write about it:
December 9th: I lost my mucus plug. I just remember snapping a picture of it with my phone and sending it to my midwife asking her what the heck that was! LOL. She basically told me not to be alarmed and to just get some rest.
December 10th (due date): I noticed my baby bump lowered and I started to feel pressure down there. That evening I started to get very light contractions. Midwife told me just to rest rest rest!
December 11th: I started to get what appeared to me very frequent contractions early afternoon. By 6:30 p.m. my contractions were 30 seconds longs and only 7 minutes apart, so not that serious. I think my midwife may have came to check on me, but again nothing to be alarmed about so I just had to rest. I remember spending that whole night just sitting on the toilet because that was the only thing that helped ease my contractions.
SITTING ON THE TOILET WAS THE ONLY THING THAT HELPED EASE ME THROUGH MY CONTRACTIONS.
December 12th: Water broke at 5 a.m.!!! I remember just feeling like a little girl who just peed on herself looking for someone to save me. Thank goodness I was in my bedroom and not in public! That day my contractions got heavier and my midwife came over to check my dilation… about 3cm. She stayed all day basically and my mom too. I remember doing squats and walking. But no change in how much I dilated through out the day. My husband got the birthing tub filled up with water. We were ready + excited to have this baby. Late afternoon my mother and midwife left, so my husband and I could experience this pre-labor in private. That evening he prepared a bath for me to relax and ease me from the contractions. I remember holding his hand and telling him how glad I was that it was just him and I during that time. He also gave me a Castor Oil drink mixed with Almond butter my midwife left to help speed up my labor. I threw some of it up and forced myself to sleep hoping I would wake up to some hard core contractions.
December 13th: My midwife came over sometime around 2 a.m. and checked for my dilation… still at 3cm… I had not progressed even after all the contractions I had been having for the past two days! I was a bit irritated. I kept asking myself “What am I doing wrong?”. Now this is where it got tricky. The rule for midwifery (at least in SC) is that the baby must be delivered by 24 hours after having the water break. By 3 a.m. my midwife asked me if I felt like I was going to have my baby by 5 a.m. I listened to my body, and I said “No.” *Insert big large sad face* I could see the look in my husbands eye and he too was upset that we were probably not going to have any choice but to go to the hospital because I was still at 3cm. My midwife told us to grab our belongings and meet her at the hospital. in the mean time she called the hospital letting them know about my situation, so they could expect us. As we checked in the hospital I remember I had to stop as I was walking to let my contractions pass. All I wanted was my midwife to hold my hand and talk me through my contractions. Her voice is that of an Angel. Seriously.
MY AMAZING MIDWIFE TALKING TO ME BEFORE SHE CHECKED MY WACK 3CM DILATION PROGRESS.
Let me tell you real quick why I was bummed I was going into the hospital, besides the fact that I really wanted a home water birth… I was not mentally ready to meet 5 new staff members every time they had a shift change. I was not prepared for a stranger to hand me my baby in a cold room. I was not ready for all these monitors, tools, and needles to be surrounded at my birth. But what can you do?
When I got settled into my room, they immediately injected me with Pitocin to induce my labor so I could start dilating. By 9 a.m. I was so over being at the hospital and seeing new faces and dealing with contractions at that, that I gave in and asked for the Epidural. You know, the one thing I preached about not getting? Well if its there, why not? lol. I knew I would have not asked for pain medication had I been home, but dang it I needed it because I was mentally not there, especially after contractions and no sleep for the past 2 days. After they injected the Epidural I finally went to sleep and got some good rest. I woke up around 1:30 p.m. and asked the doctor to check my dilation. Once she came in she said “Oh! You are fully dilated!” My response in my head… “Derp! Y’all should have been checked me!” Ha. So it was time to push. The doctor asked me to practice push and when I did she said she was ready to come out… After 15 minutes of easy pushing, walllahhhhh Aryana was born at 2:22pm on Friday the 13th of December 2013.
So my hospital experience was not too bad. I secretly think I was not dilating because Ary had her cord wrapped around her head and hand which made it difficult for her to push through. However, I still plan on having a home water birth for my next one.
ARYANA AT 3 MONTHS :)
06 12 / 2013
December 6th. Four days before my “Due Date”.
As we are getting settled in our apartment, we are also finishing up preparing for our home water birth. I thought I would share how simple and LOW COST this has been planning Arianna’s arrival at our own home.
In a Washington Post article I read, written this past July…
I don’t know about y’all, but I don’t have that type of money. That shit is CRAY. Ya’ll want to know how much it has cost me so far? About three stacks. This includes:
- My Midwife’s attendance at the birth
- Birthing Classes
- Two required (SC State Law) OBGYN/Doctor visits
- Blood work/Lab Test
- Prenatal visits by my midwife at MY home
- Having my midwife available 24/7 to answer any questions or concerns.
- Birth Kit Supplies
- Water Tub
- And again having my Midwife available to guide us through this journey physically and emotionally (I emphasize this because doctor’s don’t do this)
- Postpartum care/visit to MY home from my midwife
Here is a picture of my Birth Kit ($54 + Shipping):
10 - Underpads Heavy WT, 23” x 36”
10 - Underpads Heavy WT, 30” x 36”
1 - Straws, Pkg of 10
1 - Sanitary Pads, Pkg of 14
1 - Sanitary Brief, Unisize
1 - Peri Bottle
1 - Baby Cap, Basic Cotton
1 - Bulb Syringe, 3oz
1 - Povidone Solution, 8oz
1 - After Birth Sitz Herbs
1 - Herbal Cord Care
1 - Sterile Field
4 - Gloves Latex Pairs, 7.0
1 - Gentleheel Lancet
And here is a picture of my Birthing Tub ($35) which is in my dining room. I took a picture of my kitchen (which is across from it) to show how “at home” this is going to be.
There are more supplies needed for a home birth which I have not shown. Most of the other supplies needed are simple things you most likely already have in your household. The birth kit and birthing tub are just an example of the “bigger” purchases.
I cannot say how awesome my home birth will be as I have not physically experienced that yet, but so far preparing for that day has been amazing and I cannot wait to give birth at home and share it with you all!
25 9 / 2013
How ironic is it that I have been called P-Momma for many years, and now I am in the process of becoming a mother? The name was first given by an ex and it kinda stuck with my friends and family. Although this ex of mine is no longer in my life, people still call me P-Momma. Every time I hear “P-Mommma”, it reminds me of the old me, the college party girl. And I don’t like associating P-Momma with the Mother that I hope to be. This although is not the point of this post.
I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and expecting a baby girl, Arianna. I’ve been so open to my peers about my pregnancy mainly because I want to share this beautiful experience, inspire, and inform them of many things that I feel my peers are unaware of. To make it clear, I am not judging my peers for making the choices they made or will make with their pregnancy nor am I telling them it is wrong. I am simply sharing my choices, because I have found alot of them are uneducated and are unaware that they even have choices.
To start off, not only have I chosen a natural birth, but a HOME water birth. This means no medical intervention whatsoever, unless a medical emergency arises. This will take place in my own home with the assistance of an experienced Midwife that I have chosen. Yes, I’ve heard of Birthing Centers, but how is that really helping me and is it necessary for ME and what I want out of my birthing experience? I love the idea of being home in my own surroundings and being able to be in full control of my birth. Not only is it healthy for the baby and I, but i get to experience birth the natural way. I don’t want to be drugged up and not be able to feel what my body should feel during birth. I want to remember the pain of each contraction as it brings me one step closer to meeting Arianna. I want to remember birthing as a beautiful experience.
With that said, I would like this to be somewhat of an introduction or invitation for you to witness my journey and process as I retire the name P-Momma and embrace the new P-Mother.
"GIVING BIRTH SHOULD BE YOUR GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT, NOT YOUR GREATEST FEAR."